Living or performing to act!

No one accepts no one. We may like a few things about a few people but are incapable of accepting any one completely. Our fractured acceptance is known to the mind and in response there is intense craving for acceptance which also means attention. This is the cause of our propensity to compliments and flattery. This is also the cause of Continue reading

Don't die young!

Every death creates short term turmoil. Eventually all is settled. But young death creates many problems. We do not live with freedom to die. Though it is a paradox but this very lack of this freedom often hastens death. In life, in commitments of marriage and family, we often create obligations, which upon disruption by death, rattles many lives. It is more true when wife is non-working. The best course appears to be: ‘Do not die young‘. But what to do to avoid the paradox, pointed out above.
In one sentence: ‘Change your lifestyle’. The truth is that mere change may be inadequate. A revolution would be better.
It was over twelve years ago when a class fellow fell pry to brain stroke. and about three years ago when another friend succumbed to stroke. Now a young friend is in hospital struggling with stroke. His younger brother died of same disease, two years ago. Things have been more complicated by diabetes. What is going on? What is wrong? Sudden strokes and sudden deaths?

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Money! How much to earn? Why earn at all?

Money, Money, Money.

When it comes to setting target to earn, mind recalls all those expenses we had been postponing and the amount, which could cover all that, looks reasonable. However imagining an exact monthly income or a corpus amount is not feasible. Actually it is feasible but no one stops at that target even if it brings discomfort.

So what is this contraption called Money?

Money, indisputably is an important factor in life. Money not only affects the choices we make but also shapes the habits which define our character rather ourselves. Money defines our frequent social circle, in long run and relationships at any given time.
Of course there are exceptions. Few people remain as tasteless as ever notwithstanding the accumulated wealth. They continue to live in same dinghy ranch, day in and day out, without even thinking to move to more comfortable premises. They would ride same 30 years old vehicle and wear same clothes. These are people who live in extreme insecurity and can only spend in hospitals. This talk is not for those misers. Their children will love them when they are dead.
There is another type according to whom, why make effort to earn more when one can survive with less. They earn for the need of body and not for mind. This post is not about those people either.
Here I am concerned with normal people.

What is normal?

At the beginning of career, what a person need, is a job in the same field as expected. Just a job. But the problem is that every person is always on a lookout for job. There is a person whom I know for last four years. He happens to be in finance industry especially in share/commodity/currency trading. He has already handed me eight different visiting cards in last four years.
The truth is we are all running and chasing every opportunity to make money. Knocking at every door, closed or open, if there is a prospect of money.

Why this chase?

One stupid answer is that with more money there is security against disease. Normal illnesses can be taken care with regular insurance. Some chronic illnesses are better taken care with healthy lifestyle. Critical and life threatening or physical challenging health problems do require lot of financial support. But should I start planning for that? This is the most hopeless way to approach life.
But chasing targets is what we have been taught (see Military Kinder Garden) and this is what we know. Hence this is what we do. So what is the problem? Nothing as long it keeps a person happy.


Now here lies the crux of problem. Every person whom I ask ‘Are you happy?’ answers that he is happy but soon he would be more happy!
This appears to be a riddle. How something which can not be measured or weighed, can be more or less?
Some persons whom I asked the above question answered that they never thought about it. They are so busy that they have no time to think about anything, but their work.
Actually happiness is like health. There is no definition of being healthy. If we have no illness, we are healthy. Similarly absence of pain or hurt or unhappiness is the happiness. But the more we chase, more we try to accumulate money, we end up accumulating more hurt and pain along with money.

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Money can provide ample comfort to the body and it should be that way only. But it must not become a burden of indulgence or sedentary lifestyle. Earning money at the cost of health is plain stupidity. Straining for 12-14 hours everyday having no time for ourselves? One can certainly lose health and gain money but money can not bring back the health. The comfort provided by Money must not make life sedentary for that is the single most cause for most of the diseases.

Ambiguity and Uncertainty is the only truth. accumulation of Money brings no security and no certainty. So what is this chase. Attempt to control future? Attempt to run away from ourselves, our miseries, our pains and hurts which we give to each other? Hide ourselves in shopping of numerous things, we are going to use for few times then forget? Why is this chase? Or is it that once we enter into this rat race, we simply can not step away from it? Choose the reason. Result is same.

Lyrics: Abba-Money Money Money

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© Sandeep Bhalla

Road rage, violence, stress and Namastey

Lawyers Strikes in Delhi on 18th May 2012.

Law and order is a problem. Traffic is a problem. Job is a problem. Wife and children are a problem. Parents are a problem. Life is a problem. So what I am going to do. I am going out in traffic and shall make a point to resolve my problem by beating up the first person I find in an error with driving or parking. Though, I do not do it, it is what is happening on the roads.

The three judges and the driver of the car were attacked on Thursday evening, in the second incidence of road rage in the capital in which judges were at the receiving end. One of the judges, Ajay Garg suffered head injuries while two of his colleagues, additional sessions judges Inderjit Singh and M K Nagpal, escaped unhurt in the incident.Garg and the other two judges were in a car and headed to Ambedkar Nagar when the incident took place. The driver of car was also injured in the incident. When they reached Dakshinpuri, a motorcycle hit their vehicle, following which the bikers accosted the judges and beat up Garg and the driver. The attackers also allegedly hit Garg’s head with stones. Garg and the driver, who were injured in the incident, were rushed to AIIMS Trauma Centre. The attackers fled the scene leaving the motorcycle at the spot.

This is the second incident within a week. Earlier:

On May 14, Additional Chief Metropolitan Magistrate of Saket court Sanjay Sharma was attacked allegedly by an SUV driver after the former had stopped his car on one side of the Bus Rapid corridor, allegedly obstructing the vehicle’s way. (Source:

We do not know whether these attacks were pre-meditated or not. We have been made to believe that these are part of sporadic road rage incidents. Which may be reasonable. In protest, the lawyers all over Delhi were on strike on May 18, 2012.

There is another perspective of the matter. Road rage incidents are on the rise. Traffic is uncontrollable. What is the solution? Why every person on road is so irritated. Is this undue emphasis on achieving, taking its toll? I think no energy shall be applied to finding the solution. These Magistrates and Sub-ordinate Judiciary shall demand red lights on their cars and they shall be granted. No one fights with the driver of a car with beacon on its top.

BTW I was anxious, as to what is happening across the Globe where a sitting supreme court judge had to face burglary for a second time. (Source:

For me I use only one thing. Folded hands at the forehead. Hand folding is a traditional Indian gesture for greeting Namaste. Now if I face an aggressive driver, I simply fold hands and get out of way. See the picture. This is the greeting posture. Now if you raise the folded hands to forehead, it is a gesture of submission. It always works. Remember anger is blind and domination is its goal. To argue with an angry person is an imbecile action.

© Sandeep Bhalla