Why Human relationships turn sour?
Humanity exist in relationships. Civilization is a relationship. Howsoever we may crave, we can not exist without relationships. Relationship could be life long like marriage or as Parent or it could be sporadic like that with bus driver, Milkman or Postman.
In spite of such immense importance of relationships, relationships often fail. When we talk of relationships, marriage is unnecessarily notorious. Parents of grownups find their relationship with children turning sour. Friends turn foe. Siblings who grow up together and have decade of joint past do not see each other eye to eye, in later life. What happens?
Is it marriage?
Answer is emphatic no. Marriage may be a catalyst in some cases but it certainly is not the cause. Marriage do introduce new characters and ideas in the equation of relationship and may require adjustments but that is not the only cause. Continue reading
The serene yet pseudo silence of mind
The gigantic wheel of mind never really stops. If you do not know what it is about, please read no further. It is personal and private. Find some other sensation do not bother with this rambling.
Mind like earth, spins and moves with speed. Earth is rotating at the speed of 94 miles per second and we do not notice. Mind is much more faster. May be faster than light!! But it movers in circles. Steer out of one, it will find another circle. Continue reading
Happy New Year 2017.
What is luck?
The word luck is often understood as some kind of miracle. Often luck is used as synonym of phrase “good fate”. Like wise bad fate is bad luck. Hindi word which has ascended on English vocabulary as well is KISMAT.
Kismat encompasses everything what happens in a life time. From birth to death. Thus the word kismat is too broad. Thus if one believes in kismat s/he has to fatalistic and leave everything at the fate. But life does not play like that. We are posed with choices every moment and we choose our way forward.
I understand the kismat or luck or fate are relative to circumstances. When facing impossibility, all three are true. For example if I jump off a 30 story building, chances of death are certain and only some strange unforeseen event can prevent it but that is very unlikely too. So the question is:
What really is Kismat?
Conspiracy is a serious word but it is most appropriate. If you are uncomfortable you may use planning but that is physical preparation. Conspiracy is state of mind to manipulate by any means necessary. Most of the time we are involved in conspiracy. Difficult to pinpoint when it starts. May be attempt to cheat in a game in Kinder Garden was first conspiracy. Something on social media inspired me to write following:
ईंसान: समय की प्रत्यचां पर उछलने वाले बिचारे इंसान को ज़िन्दगी को खेल समझते हुए भी, ज़िन्दगी को एक षड्यंत्र में बदल कर बड़ी ख़ुशी महसूस करते है यध्धपि षड्यंत्र किसी के भी नियंत्रण मे ज़्यादा देर नहीं रहते ।
Above would nearly translate in English as under:
Human: Tied to the fate, human do realise that the life is a play, yet they feel pleasure in converting into a conspiracy even though no conspiracy remains in anybody’s control for long.
Thus living becomes a long chain of planning, deception, manipulation and conspiracies. Newer and newer ideas are invented everyday to achieve desires or rather to chase thoughts we call ideas. How-so-ever small that desire may be.
Example of a smallest conspiracy:
What is your problem?
Find out from core of your heart. Dive to the bottom of your memories, aspirations, ambitions, desires, pain, problems and whatever else is there in the pit whole of your mind. Delve into it and find out. A single problem which you perceive as the root of all problems. A narrative in your life which remains constant. Try everything yet one factor which keeps troubling again and again.
Do you know your problem?
What is it?
Let me guess:
“Nothing happens in life the way I want, even when it seems that things were happening in my favour.”
If it sounds familiar, read on, else do something more productive than reading this lousy article or go somewhere discover something new or whatever.
Life is not about winning or losing. It is not about possessing or dispossessing. It is living with perception not conclusions. Do you see things and events and people from an independent perspective much less from their own perspective?
I guess not.
Try some time. For a change. Get out of your thought and observe. See what exactly is happening. What you are doing. How much of your own action is in an automatic pattern. As if some force is pushing your buttons. Do not bring your religion or God into it. And do not let some spiritual or religious entrepreneur exploit you by calling it by a name, good or bad.
Once we survive these entrepreneurs, we may have a chance to find the core of the problems. Everyday problems. Life is not unfair. We are.